How To Avoid the Green-Eyed Monster in Business
Guest Post by Joyce Harrell
You work hard on your business. Competition is expected. So what are you dealing with as feelings of jealousy or envy arise when a competitor or friend is excelling in business and you aren’t? Are there explanations for these feelings and what can we do to avoid them? How can you move forward in business?
Self-Image
How is your self-image? Do you struggle with areas of worthiness? The way we feel about others is a reflection of our own struggles. Do you have false belief systems that override your brilliance? Investing in a good coaching program or doing research on this subject can be a key to unblock this area. It is essential for you to be grounded in who you are or you will always look at the success of others with an envious eye.
Skills
How do you handle areas of your business where you are not skillful? Do you look at websites of others in your field and wish your site looked better? How does this make you feel? Are you envious that others have something on their site that you wanted to add?
You need to change your thinking about this. Hire someone to do what you can’t do. If your budget is an issue, then do research online. You can learn to do anything you set your mind to do. Do a Google search to get information on any skill you need to acquire. Successful people do or delegate.
Sabotage
Many times when you aren’t seeing movement in your business, it can be due to self-sabotage. Sabotage comes when you get stuck and can’t move forward in business. You consciously or unconsciously do things to get in the way of your success.
Sometimes you look at others’ work and feel you’ll never measure up. Do you ever have the thought that you could never be as successful as XYZ? You place your eyes on the success of others and off the steps you need to take.
Success
I read somewhere this week that jealousy often arises because somebody else is already successful at something we are trying to do, should be doing, or can be doing, but aren’t. I can write this because I have been this person. I can’t tell you how many times I have been confronted by my insecurities. Success isn’t measured by how much money we are producing. Success comes when we have our eye on the purpose God has given us and we continue moving forward.
Do not look at the success of others with the green eye of jealousy. Realize God has purposed YOU, and when you are purposed, He will give provision. If you are stuck, find a business coach. Delegate what you can’t do. Embrace the success of others. Keep moving forward!
Joyce Harrell, RN, OCN is a Christian holistic nurse who provides natural solutions to common health problems. Joyce utilizes the art of nursing by implementing essential oils, enzyme therapy, vision boards, wellness coaching, and nutritional therapy to help you create an environment for your body to best heal.
Joyce is a wife, mother, nana, author, holistic healer, and above all committed to her relationship with God. You can find Joyce at www.NurseCoachOnline.com or email her at joyce@nursecoachonline.com.
This is a great article Joyce. The graphic just about says it all! Your questions are ‘spot on’ and when we turn the questions into that self-examining camera lens, we can usually see there’s something needing a healing touch and is a call to dig a little deeper within. Jealousy is just a green-eyed cyclops for sure! Thanks again for the post.
Thank you for the post Joyce. I have experienced many of the emotions you write about in your article. And yes, the first step is to seek out a coach. Then delegate, outsource those aspects of business that would be better handled by others. That is my focus for 2012 and with that I know that I am destined to have a great year in business and personally.