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Wellness for Women Entrepreneurs

by Karen Lindwall-Bourg

 

11067829_10206602038074440_7894390764424740891_nAs women entrepreneurs, we are focused on our calling and our passion. We have taken our God-given vision, and with grace and elbow grease, we are making it work!

Performance Pressures Hinder Wellness

Let’s be honest, though—there are times when we get frustrated and discouraged. This entrepreneur journey is hard. And it’s not the only “performance” pressure we have in our lives. Relationships, parenting, friendship, and being a business leader all require our energy and effort to successfully maintain.

Personally, I sometimes struggle to stay encouraged and motivated when things aren’t unfolding the way I want them to. When I started out, there were times I felt I just couldn’t keep up. There was often no more “go” in my “get up and go”.

How do we get unstuck? How do we manage when we’ve lost sight of the horizon? How do we press on when discouragement lurks?

Wellness Checks: We are Multi-dimensional!

God wants us to be holy and blessed in every aspect of our lives.

 And Jesus said to him, “Go your way; your faith has made you well.” And immediately he recovered his sight and followed him on the way.
—Mark 10:52

A huge portion of His ministry included healing and restoring people to wholeness.

We are spirit, soul, and body. Whenever I feel super stuck, I check in within these three dimensions. What’s going on in my body? Is my soul getting what it needs? Am I neglecting something regarding my spirit?

Check Your Physical Wellness

  • Sleep
    • Our physical and physiological needs cannot be overlooked. Just like a toddler gets grumpy without enough sleep, our bodies and personalities are also compromised. Are we going to bed at a healthy time? Are we getting quality sleep? I can no longer go to bed with my iPad, iPhone, or laptop.
    • Turn off your devices, including the TV. Put your head on the pillow, and close your eyes. If needed, put a pen and paper by the bed for those lists that rush in when your head hits the pillow.
  • Nutrition
    • When I get busy or excited about something I am working on, I will put off eating. And put it off. And put it off. Then, I am starving and eat a big, poorly chosen meal at the end of the day. Take it from experience, this is not healthy. Eating healthy and regularly is such an important factor to our mood, energy level, and brain function.
    • Your body is trying to tell you what it needs when you feel hungry. It’s important you listen. That 3 p.m. energy slump with brain fog can be easily managed with a healthful snack.
  • Hormones
    • We are all women here, and let’s be real. To deny that hormones play a part in our bodies is naive. I know I have one or two crazy days when I feel really down and out. I don’t need medication; I need to be gentle with myself and aware of the pattern. For me, I know it will pass.
    • Take a month and recognize when your mood swings to places you are not so fond of. Depending on your age and health, it may take more medical investigation. However, be encouraged; it’s totally manageable.
  • Movement
    • I know, I know. We hear it all the time. Exercise makes you feel better. And we aren’t talking marathon training!
    • Did you know a 20-minute walk every day can help improve clarity and boost creativity? And a pace a little faster than a stroll can clear your head, wake up your body, and renew your energy.

Check Your Soul Wellness

Your soul can also be thought of as your heart, mind, will, and emotions. It’s the place where your spirit meets your decision-making process. Your soul finds peace and strength when you listen to the Spirit.

  • Desires
    • Sometimes, we ignore the desires of our hearts, and everything gets off kilter. We get disheartened.
    • Checking in on your heart’s desire with prayer and listening can help ease discouragement.
  • Positivism
    • Thankfulness can transform a negative attitude into a positive one. Our soul is also influenced by the people around us—negative and positive alike.
    • Selectively listen to those who speak into your life! Increase the positive influences and uplifting voices in your life.

Check Your Spiritual Wellness

Our spirit is that holy part inside where God dwells and communicates with us. Having an active and intentional spiritual life produces spiritual health. It is where we find the strength to keep going when we feel we can’t take another step.

  • Prayer
    • It requires conversation and listening to be a good friend, a good wife, or a good mother. The same is true with God. Prayer is the conversation. Quiet time is not just about reading and praying; it’s also about listening to what God is saying.
    • Prayer can happen at any time. It doesn’t just have to be the 20 minutes you set aside in the morning before the kids get up. It can be part of your daily walk or in the shower.
    • Find exhortation and encouragement from God’s Word.

I entreat Euodia and I entreat Syntyche to agree in the Lord. Yes, I ask you also, true companion, help these women, who have labored side by side with me in the gospel together with Clement and the rest of my fellow workers, whose names are in the book of life.

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.

—Philippians 4: 29

  • Worship
    • Worship is similar to prayer in that you can do it anytime, anywhere.
    • Worship is the singing we do. It includes the little moments when we take the time to recognize what a great and amazing God we have. It encompasses noticing the stunning clouds on a stormy day. It embraces appreciating the luxuries we have in life and acknowledging that He is the source.
  • Thankfulness
    • Gratitude is a popular concept today. It is effective in creating a positive and appreciative life view.
    • It is also a great way to remind yourself of all the wondrous things in your life by taking the time to recognize and thank God for them.

11070483_10206602040354497_444182184261363099_nWalk in Love

. . . be filled with the Spirit,  addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
—Ephesians 5:18-21

Those moments of feeling like giving up will come. But, before we make up our minds to quit, we need to check in with the most important parts of ourselves and our God-given purpose!

Are there things you do to help keep moving forward?

What tips do you have for making progress when you feel stuck?

 

KarenLKaren Lindwall-Bourg is the Founder of RHEMA Counseling Associates, a Biblical Counseling, Coaching, and Training Center seeking to honor the Lord by leading others to the Sovereign God and the cross and Life of Jesus Christ, empowered by the Holy Spirit and equipped with the Sufficient Word [Greek: rhema] of God for abundant life and ministry. Karen lives with her husband Fred in North Central Texas, and spends as much time as possible with their 6 children, 5 grandchildren, extended family, and menagerie of ranch animals. www.rhemacounseling.com.

Taking Time to Love Your Business

by Karen Lindwall-Bourg

 

Let the favor of the Lord our God be upon us,
and establish the work of our hands upon us;
yes, establish the work of our hands!

Psalm 90:17

Love is in the air! Just like every February. This year, why not show some love to your business? Try out these suggestions to help your business grow.

 

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Send personal notes to your clients.

You might not have the type of business where you can send a personal note to each customer; if that’s the case, you can pick out a strategic few. Consider how much more of an impact you can have if the note is handwritten. Keep it short and personal. Think of it as a professional “Valentine” for your clients and customers.

 

Reach out with a handwritten inquiry to a new contact.

Who is the one person you’ve wanted to contact and start building a relationship? This is a networking contact that has the potential to show your business love and for whom you can reciprocate. Send a personal and specific handwritten note introducing yourself and offering value to your contact. Spend some time creating your letter. Don’t forget to politely request a response or offer a specific time you will follow-up.

 

Use this short month to accomplish that “to-do” you keep pushing back.

Boy, do I need this one!  The list grows!  We all have that thing on our to-do list we push back from month to month. Use these 28 days to get it done. Focus on the fact that you only have this month to finish it, and finally cross it off the list!

 

Invest in yourself to grow your biz.

You can’t do it all by yourself. Now, we superwomen can do a lot, but there are some things you just need help with. Take some time to determine a good way to invest in yourself or in your business to help it grow. Maybe you should commit to a coaching program, or perhaps your investment should be in a virtual assistant to help free up your time. You know what area of your business needs some love better than anyone.karenfeb2

 

Take some time off to recharge.

Entrepreneurs tend to work all the time. So, it is very important we schedule time off to rest and recharge. Taking a little time off for self-care can open up the creative flow again. Rest can actually make you more productive and more creative. Consider taking a break when your ideas are starting to feel stale.

 

Schedule a brainstorming session.

If you are stuck and not coming up with new ideas or the next steps on how to grow your business, schedule a session with some trusted business women. Brainstorming sessions should focus on collecting as many ideas as possible without filtering and without judging. Once you get a list, you can discuss which idea will work best for you. You can also use a brainstorming session to help devise an implementation plan for an idea you already have.

 

You know your business better than anyone. You know where it needs a little TLC and what is going well. Take some time to give yourself and/or your business a little extra love this month. It will help enhance your clarity, improve your creativity, and invigorate your purpose.

 

Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the Founder of RHEMA Counseling Associates, a Biblical Counseling, KarenLCoaching, and Training Center seeking to honor the Lord by leading others to the Sovereign God and the cross and Life of Jesus Christ, empowered by the Holy Spirit and equipped with the Sufficient Word [Greek: rhema] of God for abundant life and ministry. Karen lives with her husband Fred in North Central Texas, and spends as much time as possible with their 6 children, 5 grandchildren, extended family, and menagerie of ranch animals. www.rhemacounseling.com.

Overcoming Entrepreneurial Overwhelm!

by Karen Lindwall-Bourg

KarenB “There are very few certainties that touch us all in this mortal experience, but one of the absolutes is that we will experience hardship and stress at some point.”
—James Dobson

…BUT why does this stress have to be so exacerbated during the holidays?

I love this time of year! Not only is everything beautifully decorated and oh-so romantic with lights, music, and the smells of the holiday season; it is also a time to look back on the year and evaluate successes and challenges and to look at accomplished goals and places where I fell short of my dreams.

During that self-evaluation process, I am sure not to judge myself too harshly—after all, life does happen, and even with my best intentions things just don’t always come together as planned. Fortunately for us, the Lord directs our steps. Proverbs 16:9 states,

“The heart of man plans his way,
but the Lord establishes his steps.”

God’s answer is the real power that shapes events and enables me to give the right answer and take the right steps.

Another part of my evaluation process involves looking at how I felt while accomplishing my goals. This might not seem relevant, but being frustrated, overwhelmed, or disorganized while trying to make things happen can actually keep them from happening!

One of the reasons I like looking at my goals around Christmas and New Year’s is because this is one of the busiest times of year. Having a lot to do in a little bit of time and the stresses that surround the season may lead to a renewal of those feelings that kept me from achieving my goals. So, when I start to feel that oh-so-familiar overwhelm and frustration, I can focus on solutions for my next set of goals.

When I look at my goals and the never-ending to-do list, I will do a few things differently this time to help soothe that sense of “oh-my-how-will-I-ever-get-this-done” panic.

Let’s work on these together this season!

Let’s Get Organized

Find something that works for you, and stick to it. It doesn’t have to be fancy or complicated. Use a spreadsheet or an online project management tool. Basecamp works for me, but there are many others available. Just keep it simple. Your time-organizing project should not take more time to construct than it takes to complete the items on your to-do list (talking to myself, here!).

Schedule, Schedule, Schedule

This is one of the most underrated and under-observed skills. Create a quarter or a year’s worth of goals and put a realistic timeline on them. You can’t make your life and business dreams come true by wishing. There has to be a concrete plan. Part of that plan includes putting firm deadlines on your goals. Making those timelines and each action step concrete will be a huge help in limiting overwhelm while achieving your goals. After all, it is often procrastination that makes us feel pressure to complete things, which leads to stress, overwhelm, and frustration.

…or…

Work Through & Celebrate Your POWER-HOUR!

Blocking off 15, 30, 45 minutes or an hour to focus on one specific task has worked well for me. Set a time, power through the hour, and see how much you can accomplish!  Celebrate what you have achieved rather than mourning over what you didn’t compete.

Hire Help

While it might seem weird to hire help during the holidays, it will help you keep up continuity in your business while you attend to all your holiday festivities. The absolute best way to achieve your goals is to get help. You can’t do it all by yourself. You need someone who can help shoulder the workload. You can outsource small stuff like research or reports. You can hire experts to manage your social media. You can contract with a freelance writer to keep up your blog posts and other writing. You can hire a virtual assistant to help with almost anything (thank you, Courtenay!). For busy moms, I suggest a housekeeper. You’d be surprised what a load that takes off (thanks, Lorena!).karenA

 

Take some time to think about how you feel during this busy time of year and how those same feelings may carry over into other projects later in the year. Now, as you write your goals for the year, add in solutions for overcoming those difficult spots. Solutions may include:

  • Taking a weekend retreat to pray, plan, and write your goals.
  • Hiring help in the form of a VA, freelance writer, social media expert, or housekeeper.
  • Setting realistic timelines on your goals, especially if you are working with a team.
  • Planning on days off when you unplug and focus on things that are not your business.

Comment below with solutions you will write into your goals this next year to help you avoid overwhelm at the holidays and all year long!

The Lord’s certain purpose and His answers will stand in spite of and in the midst of my plans.

 

Don’t wait until you feel you are at the end of your rope!

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See also Proverbs 16:1-2, 9; 19:21; 20:24 and Psalm 37:23 and Jeremiah 10:23.

 

Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the Founder of RHEMA Counseling Associates, a Biblical Counseling, KarenLCoaching, and Training Center seeking to honor the Lord by leading others to the Sovereign God and the cross and Life of Jesus Christ, empowered by the Holy Spirit and equipped with the Sufficient Word [Greek: rhema] of God for abundant life and ministry. Karen lives with her husband Fred in North Central Texas, and spends as much time as possible with their 6 children, 5 grandchildren, extended family, and menagerie of ranch animals. www.rhemacounseling.com.

The Foundation Stone: The Fourth of Four Business Cornerstones for Helping Professionals

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…therefore thus says the Lord
God,

“Behold, I am the one who has laid as a foundation in Zion, a stone, a tested stone, a precious cornerstone, of a sure foundation: ‘Whoever believes will not be in haste.’

Isaiah 28:16

The ONE cornerstone was usually the largest, the most solid, and the most carefully constructed of any in the building. Over the past few months, we’ve been discussing types of secure stones necessary to build a successful business. We discussed THE Cornerstone—Jesus Christ.  The Apostle Paul referred to Him as the "head of the corner" and the "Chief Cornerstone of the Church.” He must be the head of our businesses as well! Then, we discussed the dedication stoneyour mission and vision. It includes your purposes and is fundamental to and defines your past, present, and future growth. Another keystone is your customer or client. God has called you to serve them and to represent Him as you work togetheryou are His ambassador and builder as you offer your clients services and products that will enhance their lives. A final, but crucial, foundation stone is…you! After all, it is you God has called to minister to others in this unique and effective way! He will lead you to the equipment and expertise needed to draw others to Him as you follow your purpose and calling as entrepreneur! I waited seven years for God to show me what this looked like, and then I realized (in this stagnant state) that I had to move as far forward into His will as I could before He would show me more of the purposes and vision for RHEMA Counseling Associates.

  • Who are you?
  • Who are you in Christ?
  • What has He called you to do?
  • How do you believe He has equipped and will equip you toward this calling?

As you seek His will and look at what He has already shown you, what is the next step to take toward bringing Him gory and honor in your organization? Let’s take that step together! Join us and share your cornerstones at https://www.facebook.com/helpingprofessionalsalliance. God Bless You!

Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the Founder of RHEMA Counseling Associates,, a Biblical Counseling, KarenLCoaching, and Training Center seeking to honor the Lord by leading others to the Sovereign God and the cross and Life of Jesus Christ, empowered by the Holy Spirit and equipped with the Sufficient Word [Greek: rhema] of God for abundant life and ministry. Karen lives with her husband Fred in North Central Texas, and spends as much time as possible with their 6 children, 5 grandchildren, extended family, and menagerie of ranch animals. www.rhemacounseling.com.

The Keystone: The Third of Four Business Cornerstones for Helping Professionals

karen3…therefore thus says the Lord God,

“Behold, I am the one who has laid as a foundation in Zion,
a stone, a tested stone,
a precious cornerstone, of a sure foundation:
‘Whoever believes will not be in haste.’

Isaiah 28:16

A cornerstone, in ancient building practices, was the first and principal stone placed at the corner of the structure. All other stones would be set in reference to this one stone, thus determining the position of the entire structure.

Here, I present to you four “cornerstones” for building a business that pleases the Lord!

We discussed THE Cornerstone—Jesus Christ.  The Apostle Paul referred to Him as the "head of the corner" and the "Chief Cornerstone of the Church.”   He must be the head of our businesses as well!

Then, we discussed the dedication stoneyour mission and vision. It includes your purposes and is fundamental to and defines your past, present, and future growth.

Another keystone is your customer or client.

God has called you to serve them and to represent Him as you work togetheryou are His ambassador and builder as you offer your clients services and products that will enhance their lives and draw them even closer to the Redeemer: THE Cornerstone! Without the customer, you don’t have a business or ministry. The satisfied client may be the mortar or cement that holds the whole business together! We can create, build,  and launch new programs all day, but reaching out to touch and care for our consumer is paramount and is a way to lovingly represent Christ in their lives!

  • Who is your ideal client?
  • Does defining him/her lead you to change or enhance your services or products?
  • How do you reach out and touch your customer when they’re not in your presence?
  • Devise a communication and “touch” plan monthly to let them know they are valuable to you and your ministry!

A final, but crucial foundation stone is… You!  Let’s talk about You as foundation stone next time!

What new steps are you taking to reach out and touch your clients?

Let’s take these steps together!

Join us and share your keystones at https://www.facebook.com/helpingprofessionalsalliance.

God Bless You!

Karen Lindwall-Bourg is the Founder of RHEMA Counseling Associates,, a Biblical Counseling, KarenLCoaching, and Training Center seeking to honor the Lord by leading others to the Sovereign God and the cross and Life of Jesus Christ, empowered by the Holy Spirit and equipped with the Sufficient Word [Greek: rhema] of God for abundant life and ministry. Karen lives with her husband Fred in North Central Texas, and spends as much time as possible with their 6 children, 5 grandchildren, extended family, and menagerie of ranch animals. www.rhemacounseling.com